Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

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Finally decided to ring the wife and ask her directly about the relationship, rather than via the family. She was so adamant that she wasn't in a relationship, so truthful sounding, so convincing that I don't know who to believe or not.
I know, and have for a long time, realised her behaviour is exactly as a person in an affair. I know the not wanting to talk or see each other is exactly like someone in an affair would do.
I know by what I am told by her family, the behaviour that they see is like a love sick child.
The last brick in my wall is the wife telling me yes, but she didn't or couldn't or isn't.
That puts me back in the difficult spot again. It has taken me many months to work up the courage to ask her and now it didn't work. I didn't get an answer that was needed for me to move on.
Now I question, again, am I doing the right or wrong thing. Should I still continue to fight for the marriage, give in, go dark, sell the houses etc.
Why does it have to be so hard?