Any insight from the vets here would be much appreciated! I was wondering how to figure out the balance between addressing the issues your partner had with you (while in your relationship) and detaching/going dim?
For example, my ex said I wasn't very present in our relationship--I was detached (generally because I was depressed) and she said she felt like I didn't love her. In therapy, I am working on being more emotionally present overall in my life, which extends to my interactions with her (making effort to ask about her day, showing interest in her interests, etc.), but I wonder if that goes against what I should be doing in my DB efforts and detaching?
When we first broke up, she was not interested in me being more emotionally present in her life (so I worked on closing myself off), but I've noticed a shift in these last few months. She seems more eager to share things about her, her thoughts, her interests, her life, and likewise notices if I seem closed off and uninterested. So I guess I was a bit confused on how to proceed!
