Hi Demoted26! I'm a newbie (former lurker) here too! Like you, I'm also having a hard time with detaching.
I don't have a lot of advice now 'cause I'm a newbie, but I did want to offer my support Sending you lots of good vibes for more job interviews.
Any other progress on the sleeping arrangements? Is your husband still insistent on sleeping in the master bedroom even though you have joint problems? Would it be possible to purchase one of those tempurpedic mattress toppers for your couch (or spare bed, wherever you would sleep if you don't sleep in the same room)? Not ideal, I know, but I wonder if it might be an option if your H is going to be stubborn about it?