Like a few others I also think you have to start fighting back for respect. That was complete BS on her part. Glad you said something to her, try to ignore her reaction to what you said. Gotta have respect, especially in front of kids, just as you have to show her respect (which I think you do). Kids see and pick up on everything!!!
Originally Posted By: Maritimer
If it hurt to see the photo albums in the trash I guess i am not fully detached..
Doesn't mean anything about being detached, it means you're human. Look, you're going to have feelings about this and it's normal and it's fine. Being detached is more a state of mind rather than a place of not feeling. It's doing what you want in your life and not worrying about what someone else will think and vice versa. It's about her reaction to something not affecting you because you did whatever for your own reasons. Someone throwing away irreplaceable photos is horse$hit. I'd be more worried if that didn't hurt you...
Originally Posted By: Maritimer
When will it become easier!
It gets easier with time. Also gets easier when you take back your life and live it how you want. Gotta change your mindset. Rather then all the negative BS that goes with D, try to look at the positives. Dwelling on the negative stuff will just get you stuck and we all have to move forward a little bit each day. When you start looking for the positives you'll notice you start appreciating the little things. It will get better
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Weird that if she asked me to come back to her I probably would....
Why? I don't want the obvious answer that you're lonely or you miss the kids because I know (and live) that.
I want to know why you would go back now? Has she done any work to make you think things would work out better this time? What changes have been made?
Through my journey I've met and talked with a few people that got back in without work being done and it usually hasn't ended well. I think the WAS (and the LBS) have to have a real desire to change themselves and both have to put a lot of work in for the second try to work. Not saying it doesn't happen or that it won't happen in your stich, I just haven't seen it from your W yet.
What are you doing to keep yourself busy?
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
