So she's just not attracted to men? No, as far as I can tell, she's not attracted to women, lawn chairs, or tulips either. She's interested in a lot of other things life has to offer, just not anything involving sexual arousal and intimate areas of her body. Is this hard to understand? I thought it was pretty common knowledge that the most reported sexual "dysfunction" for middle-age women was lack of desire.
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Do you accepted the sex and affections portion is just dead ended with you?
Accept? Well, I still believe in hope and change with regard to my wife, but it doesn't look promising. [quote]Her panties does not have to be wet, she can decide to start the act with you... That's her decision, she can also choose to pleasure you.
She chooses not to. And it's not much fun if it's only the result of a lot of cajoling, especially when she pleasures only me. When that's the only mode, after a while it takes on a symbolism and feeling of, "OK, I'm doing this for you but I want no part of it myself." That can lead to further dislike of the whole thing on her part and her view of men in general as being in "need" of a superficial physical action. And it can lead me to a distorted view of women as not liking sex and not caring much for men's sexuality. When sex is on that level of life-support, it really is not a bonding thing at all.
At this point, I very much want to feel that a woman wants me in a physical sexual way too. And that feeling is long gone. In fact, I have hard time visualizing that women could actually feel that way about men. Intellectually, I know better, but I harbor some irrational suspicions about it.
