Up in the air, LONG

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Also, how do I let him know the sexual relationship is OVER at this point, without starting WWIII?

I've suggested we sleep apart a couple of times. He refuses, says it's his home & he pays the bills. So he is sleeping in his own bed, since he sleeps on couches all week.

I have serious medical issues with my joints. I require a memory foam mattress. The only one we have is in the master bedroom.

I guess I could swap hours in order to avoid him & sleeping together? I could stay up nights, sleep days. Not that I like that....then I miss spending time with my D & dogs as well. Plus that makes job hunting much more difficult.

I resent that he makes this decision & now the rest of us are affected deeply & he seems fairly clueless about the REALITY of how badly this whole thing is going to damage everyone as people, let alone a family (including him).