In Irons, sorry to hear that you find yourself here but it is absolutely the best place to be under the circumstances.

It's hard but you really do need to try and give your W as space as you possibly can. Many of us have been right where you are at and have struggled through many of the same emotions.

Focus on yourself and the things that you can do to make yourself the most attractive option. In the end, it's really the only thing that you have control over anyway.

I believe that you said you have read DR. What things do you want to do in terms of GAL activities? Are there things that you are aware of that you would like to change about yourself?

If so, start small and post a couple of those here...... It's an initial step in the journey.

Stay strong!


Me-48,W-51
M-22,T-24
S- 18,16,9
Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date
Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch
Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only
Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork