the root of the word sarcasm means tearing of the flesh...
I found a blog yesterday called Single Dad Laughing, totally a random FB post pointing to a flash mob video (I'm a sucker for flash mobs). The blog is written by a guy who is young, twice divorced with a young son and is his journey to figuring out why, and is a lot like many of our journeys. His post on 15 Ways I Blew my Marriage...so true.
The blog is fun, funny, poignant, insightful with some good advice.
In AlAnon, as with most 12 Step pgms, you have to do a fierce moral inventory. Sarcasm came up a lot for me and was holding me back from having better R with everyone. Who wants to get close to someone who when they feel uncomfortable inside wants to dampen that feeling by tearing another person's flesh?
Anyway, here's what the author of the SDL blog says about his sarcasm:
Yet, fun is exactly what I thought it was every time I’d lay on the sarcasm. Fun. No matter what she did, it seemed I would lay on a dose of sarcasm. Happy sarcasm. Funny sarcasm. Snide sarcasm. A lot of times straight up mean sarcasm. And, just like when I put her down, I’d make her feel stupid for not laughing about it.
He's not staying stuck, he's saying figure out your stuff and move forward.
Sort of like this place.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
