Regarding the pay cut: My company went into bankruptcy. The paycut was a direct result of the contract we ended up with and I was demoted due to downsizing. S did say it was my fault but, there are 3000 other employees in the same boat as me and none of us wanted to take a pay cut. I am mind reading when I say this but, she resents me for everything right now. She has said in the past that 90 to 100 percent of our problems are my fault. Typical WAS script. Nothing I do is right and anything I do seems to make her annoyed or mad.
She gets annoyed because of the 180's and AsIf's because I am giving her no reason to leave. I do backslide, but some of what are considered backslides here are boundaries being set by me. I discuss my boundaries with my MC to make sure I am not way off base with them. I would like to see a list of general boundaries. I know that everyone's situation is different but it would helpful to see what other have set as boundaries and how they helped or hindered their situation,
I understand that it is early into my WAS scenario. I am cycling still and I am in a down cycle for the moment. Outwardly, I am positive towards her but internally I am frustrated. I know, welcome to the club right.
Thank you for your critique and keep them coming please. I appreciate all help this forum affords. Your support is what keeps me going forward.
