Good Old England

[25yearsmlc]

It would be so different if You were the "wronged party" here

Or a man who'd had a rocky marriage & realized HE was the
Source of those "rocks" AND he was digging DEEP, &
Bravely & persistently, to repair the flaws that had so
deeply hurt a w and son

OR

if you just came here, a humbled broken man...
Willing to Do ANYTHING -ANYTHING, to become
a better, More loving father & (maybe someday, a
much better h...)

It'd be SO different

IF YOU were Trying your best to
get on a path that helps you live
a life as a noble father & honest man.

But alas, i don't believe any of these ^^^ apply
To you. Every decent gesture you make
is announced & measured, and
your world view is SO skewed, i know
My efforts have been fruitless, via a bus
YOU.

You're the same guy now that you were a year ago,
With a vindictive side really starting to
Show.
My final warning to you is this:
Your self righteousness & any punitive moves
against your w (e.g., lies about her mental stability
based on YOUR friends comments
from 3 years ago-The same friends who thought
You were a great dad...which was based
on What? You never took care of him)

are Not Nearly as relevant or helpful to you as you
Seem to think.
Is some pricey "international lawyer"
Billing you $$$ & convincing you that these
Sleazy tactics will work?

Bruce those tactics will Not work. They're
Not even original.
And they Will backfire in three ways:

1) Your w & her family will write you off
for good, b/c your true colors will be seen.
Lying about her, or twisting the truth SO
much & leaving out the parts that make
You look bad, is morally wrong. This is
The mother of your only child.
Shame on you.

2) Second, your R with your son will suffer.

This always happens when a parent bad-
Mouths the other, as you are doing here,
With your wife. Though this applies to
both parents, so far your w has not resorted
To lying about you. She puts her complaints
In writing, to You.

3) Finally, the Courts Detest this type of behavior
& i see it fail & backfire all the time. It's Not
New or unusual for them to see/hear.

Sometimes a LBH will say his w "has been a drunk
For six years. NOW she wants a divorce
And she wants to remain a sahm. Well
I say i get the kids! I say SHE is dangerous!"

The Courts see right thru it. Like many of US...

If the father were so Concerned about
his children and their Mother's drinking
habits, -- Why'd he WAIT til the
Divorce to mention it?? Hmmm?

(Because he wants to keep the money and
the illusion of control.)

And that's ^^^^ how Your choices look to me.

PLUS, from your posts here, an argument
For your own psychological & emotional
Need for help is obvious
even to the untrained eye.
No shame in it, but as the American
Phrase goes,
"don't throw rocks when You live in a glass house."

Are you familiar w/that phrase?

Bruce, i hope you will get REAL help
to figure out why so many of us see You
As the main problem in your situation.

How is it so many of us see so little growth
Or change In you? Why do you think that is?

I see the same guy who came
here a year ago
EXCEPT you are Not
Interested in changing You at all. Not now.

You want us to find blame in Her alone.

When we disagree, you change the story
OR
The topic...& that's why you are still here.

We cannot do anything for you this way.

I mean it. I cannot reach you.