Me 8 months on, dark and trying to detach.

[hotwheelsaust]

Thanks Fartiltre, I had suspected for a long time (didn't want it to be the case), the family had too. Finally the family have accepted she did walk out to have an affair. While it doesn't really matter in the big scheme of things, for me, it is just that little bit of recognition (even if it is to myself) that I wasn't fully to blame for this separation. That doesn't mean I don't accept responsibility, I do accept a lot of that. I actually feel quite ok now. I suppose it is the finality of this all. Doesn't mean I have given up on her, just simply aware of where I now stand, in a better way than I did before. Now it is easier to be dark, not to worry why she doesn't contact me and all those other things normal separated couples do. Now I at least know to focus on the marriage based on it being an affair.

Nice to know also that the exaggerating of costs are typical worldwide, again it is hard when you don't have this experience behind you. The important goal is to be able to purchase the house from her. The car and jetski are not a priority. In all honesty the W has been pretty good with what she wants and feels is fair, just the value of the houses is way off.

I do need to be the best for my boys, I probably have let them down over the last few months with my behaviour, just stuff I shouldn't have asked etc. Yes, learnt my lesson big time. It was also hard to hear a friend tell me things about the boys and how they feel about me over the years. Again it is in the past, learn by mistakes and improve me.