I picked a woman attorney on purpose. She was insightful, and said she's seen 100's of MLC divorces, and tells her clients to be ready when they come back, because they almost ALWAYS come back at one point, whether its too late or not is usually up to the LBS not the WAS/MLC.
Thank you for this, it makes sense. If W and I get D, I'll be in no hurry to find a new partner. Likely won't even date. If she doesn't come back I'll be fine on my own. I really don't want anyone else's issues.
Regarding infidelity being a deal breaker...
Thousands of marriages heal after infidelity every year. Many go on to be better and stronger than they ever were before. I won't tolerate an ongoing affair, but I also wouldn't be adverse to working through trust issues after the fact. 21 years (30 inm my case) is a lot to give up on.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
