Here is something else that I have truly come to accept. I would not want to be what he has become - a cheat, liar, betrayer and abandoner. Maybe he does not treat everyone that way, but you only need to murder one person to be a murderer. If he ever comes out of the tunnel and has to deal with this, I think it would be difficult for him. It would be for me, as I cannot think of any worse things that I could be called. Especially to a loved one.
And the "MLC defence" does not excuse it.
Portia, this is something I struggle with.
I can't imagine how any of them can come back from what they have done. It worries me. Sort of like: even if he ever did have insight and wanted to reconcile, how could he, knowing what he did?
Obviously some do come back from it and deal with what they have done, but HOW?
What, for instance, do they say to their kids, to their extended families and in-laws - i.e., to people who do not 'get it' like DBers do?
