So, Just dropping in to get some stuff off my chest.

I worry about the extent of my reactions to what XH does - but then i think that it's justified....

I have been NC for a few weeks. Quite nice except for the inevitable tantrums that the kids throw like clockwork after their dad calls them on their phones and upsets them.

I feel much more detached.

XH rang the kids yesterday and asked them to go out to dinner with him. It's a Thursday and it seems that this is OW's late working night (as he always asks them or us out on this night of the week).

As usual they didn't want to go, but I encouraged and they rang to accept.
I had no expectations of being asked to go with (even though he had asked me two weeks ago in the same scenario). I was not disappointed. he rang during the day to say "Thank you very much for 'letting' the kids go to dinner with me."
He's very tricky like that. I just reciprocated civil with civil.

He turned up as 'nice XH'.

I tried not to get too worked up when i saw that he was wearing yet another new Ralph Lauren jumper, new french-cuffed shirt and new silver cuff links (together with the glitzy Tiffany ring that OW bought him that now has a permanent place on his 'friendship finger' - yuk). He gives the kids just $7 a day in child support because he has claimed his income is so low.

Then he said the following:
Hey D17, you now have footballers stalking you!

What do you mean? says D17

The guys (referring to the 20-30yos in his football team) saw your photo on my phone and asked who the hot chick was. I told them it was my daughter. They think you are cute.

D17: bristling and decidedly uncomfortable: I'm not CUTE.

XH: No that's not exactly how they described you.... (salacious eye-rolling)

YUK

XH has prostituted himself by having OW pay for all his expenses, holidays and employees' salaries, and is now pimping his daughter around his football team.

I'm over-reacting right?

He keeps wanting D17 to come out to the football with him - even asked her to come to training a couple weeks ago and run with the team.

He has a history of 'trading' on who he knows - he likes to be able to say he knows important or interesting people and make connections. He's really achieved nothing in and of himself, but ingratiates himself with others who have, and then trades on who he knows.

He used to say he dreaded the time that our daughter would be old enough to have boyfriends - as he "Knew what men and boys are like" and half-joked that he would follow her around when she went out at night to protect her.
He left just as she was old enough for boyfriends (15) and is now behaving like some sort of ghastly teenaged boy himself.

To top the night off, he told S14 and D17 that he was going to New York and the UK soon and would like to take them on holiday with him.

This is the man who is having his car repossessed tomorrow after he has failed to pay the lease for the last 2 months and who is around $20,000 in debt for his son's school fees.

I hate it that he gets away with this.

Does anyone have any sage words to soothe my soul?