Bea, I agree that D reform is needed. There is just a general lack of self responsibility and a whole lot of entitlement in our culture. My H definitely is more protected by the court system than I am. It doesn't matter that he abandoned me and the boys. My H was free to pack one suitcase and start a new life. I was left managing our old one. My life just keeps changing and not for the better. I will have to continually give up parts of my old life and make adjustments to create a life that works for me again. It has become all about my financial survival, not my needs or happiness. And above all of that I want to consider what's best for the boys. The court could care less about any of it. The court's job is to split everything down the middle, including the kids. Nothing else is taken into consideration. It's classic enabling, if you ask me.
