Wow, well he is swinging wildly from one extreme to the other. I'm no MLC expert but it sure sounds like he's entering MLC. Unfortunately that could mean many, many years of this are ahead of you. Take a deep breath and prepare for the long haul!
Originally Posted By: sthelen
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And he's the one initiating the relationship talks almost every time he calls...he wants to know what I'm thinking, if I'm getting fed up and moving on, etc..
I wouldn't tell him what you're thinking. It's OK to listen and validate if he tells you his feelings, but don't share yours. Try to steer it back to what HE is feeling.
[quote]Sometimes I wonder if he wants me to get fed up and move on to save him the guilt of making the decision.
It's quite possible. WAS's are never sure about their decisions (even though they may act like it) and sometimes try to force the LBS into making their decisions for them. Don't take the bait!
I have done a pretty good job of steering it back to what he's feeling since I read this. He pretty much always just tells me he's thinking about it, processing, whatever. But, I've made a real effort at not giving him every single thought that goes through my head.
Also, I did finally ask him about the last thing...he's so worried about me meeting someone else and moving on. I finally asked if that's what he's hoping. He said no, never. I know, believe none of what you hear...
