Blindsided

[chl0901]

Hi Demoted, thank you so much for your hug and support! I am just so glad I found this site, because the support I see on other threads and I've received so far is so comforting and motivating. I am sorry you are going through a similar difficult time - if only our spouses would realize everything we are trying to prove/do to save and work on our relationships!

I actually made a hair appt for this weekend and am going to make a couple of small changes (nothing drastic or anything), but I hope H notices.

I do like your advice on trying to maintain some touches, but not to try to initiate intimacy and let H take charge. I hope he will soon - I miss the closeness I am used to with that and also it obviously hurts my feelings and makes me even more suspicious when he tells me he just doesn't feel like it twice in a row. I kept trying because he's told me in the past he would like for me to initiate and take charge more in the bedroom, so I guess I was trying to do a 180 of sorts with that and it backfired. Guess it's bad timing on my part to wait until he's interested in someone else to try.

Anyway, best of luck to you and your sitch and have a good holiday!