Blindsided

[Demoted26]

Hi chl, no sage advice from me...sorry. But I'm proud of how you handled seeing the OW, especially when your S was with you. It could have easily been a scene, & that wouldn't have helped a thing!!

I too always said I could "never forgive an affair". Guess what?! I did, and I'm working on facing what I think is another EA at the moment. Its easy to say when its abstract, & not reality.I don't like it, I don't condone it, its taken every ounce of my effort...but I found out it wasn't a deal breaker for me like I believed. If it became a serial thing, then yes, it would be...I just couldn't handle it.

I just wanted to drop by with a hug & support. This is so hard, and being on moderation makes it really tough. Glad that's in the past now.
I'm sure you'll get some great advice from a vet soon. In the meantime keep PMA, GAL, and keep up the great work on the weight loss , you are doing great! What about a mini makeover just for you? Maybe a new look? That could be fun.

My only suggestion? Don't be cold or distant...but maybe stop initiating intimacy? Give H some time & space, no pressure. Keep up small touches to maintain intimacy...but maybe letting him make the first move sexually would be good.