Hope you are all enjoying fine weather and fine times today!
I am taking this as an Independence Day for ME!!
Linda, you are amazing. Your H should be down on his knees thanking heaven that you were sent his way. Honestly, what would he do if you kicked his arse to the curb?
When we get a chance to step back and look at the situation as objectively as we can, I do believe that it is inevitable that these MLC relationships are not going to last. They may last longer than we think, but they (especially your H with RT!) are built on a foundation of sand. Thank you for reminding me.
For me, in the end, I do not think that his new relationship is what is killing any possible relationship for me, surprisingly, it is the being ignored and the indifference that makes me hate him.
Nero, you gave me a bit of an epiphany, thank you! I may not have been a great partner...but I was an excellent best friend...and THAT made no difference to whether or not he kept me, even as a friend. Therefore, there really was nothing I could do to make him stay. I realize that is what the vets have been saying all along but I could not help but feel that somehow I could have stopped this had I been better.
MM, thank you for the encouragement. I intend to have a good summer far away from the hot stove. I am also hitting a bit of an anger phase, so it is best that there is NC. I have a volcano temper when it shows itself!
Here is something else that I have truly come to accept. I would not want to be what he has become - a cheat, liar, betrayer and abandoner. Maybe he does not treat everyone that way, but you only need to murder one person to be a murderer. If he ever comes out of the tunnel and has to deal with this, I think it would be difficult for him. It would be for me, as I cannot think of any worse things that I could be called. Especially to a loved one.
