Questions without answers...will the hurt stop?

[RosaLinda]

"Tonight as H is getting ready for work he come's in my room where I am laying done due to a headache and says, mama...do you want the light off and the fan on, to which I said yes opening my eyes just enough to see him want to lean down and kiss me, he hesitates, stops, and says now it's comfortable in here as he walks out.

Wondering, why does he still call me by his lovingly given name when we had kids if he's so done being my H, and what is with the need to make me cozy and the instinct to kiss me good-by?

He has never calls me Dawn, even when he referes to me he says "my wife" to this day. But, he doesn't want a W. I know MLC confusion...but it's hard not to have some real facts to base this on. I am a fact person, who needs it spelled out. "

aw Dawn, you'll make yourself crazy trying to figure out why a MLCer does or does not do something. Your poor H is SO confused. He loves you and his family, and wants to be with you. I have often felt like kissing my H when he's sleeping, and admit I did the other day when leaving for my overnight job. He was asleep or pretending to sleep LOL and I kissed his forehead. YOur H wants everything and nothing.

"It's 3am and my cell rings, I pick it up because I'm a mom, eew it's EA. She's screaming at my H on the street to leave her alone. I'm half asleep before I realize what's going on....he's yelling FU to her repeatedly. I don't know that person!

Thank God I am detached...I hung up fast and have no anxiouty or anger at all! I feel so free of this, like it's not happening to me because its not, it's happening to him!"

Holy crappola! Why the hell do you think EA called YOU in the middle of a fight with your H? That is totally bizarre! I'm sorry you had to hear that side of him, but am so so proud of you Dawn Marie, to be so detached that you just hung up and did not get an anxiety attack or something like I would have! Now....does he know that EA called you? Has he mentioned this?

You're doing great! You're my detachment role model! Thanks Dawn Marie!