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[Not Quitting]

Interesting conversations yesterday and not with H. Took S round to H's place of work to pick something up from him. Seems he's been given a warning by his employers (came from one of the managers) that his behaviour is not acceptable - sounds like he's had OW in there at some point. He's rapidly running out of friends (from one of the regulars) there as well because most of them are older and therefore "old school" - you know, marriage is for life, not just until you get bored. A couple of them have been asking if S and I are okay - they don't care how H is doing, and in fact most of them don't understand why or what he's doing.

S didn't seem bothered by the meeting either; in fact, H had to call him back to say good bye. I know S is confused and hurting, and he misses having his dad around, but he's trying not to show it. Pretty mature for a 13 year old. He's offered to sell some of his toys that he doesn't play with any more and give me the money to pay the bills. Nearly made me cry with that comment. I suggested instead that if he really wants to sell the toys we should put the money aside so that we can do something special together when I take vacation from work next month.

I managed to have a conversation with H and leave without showing any emotion. Also got him to agree to discuss him paying more into the joint account to cover the debts, at least until we can get credit counselling set up. And he agreed to go ahead with the credit counselling even if it does ruin his credit (no comment about what it'll do to mine, but I let that slide). Pat on the back to me for that one.