May I ask you something? Who does your taxes? If you have a tax preparer do them, he could very well go there and request a copy. He can also contact the IRS and for a small fee, get a copy. What is so important about that tax return that he has to have a copy?
As for calling the cops, I don't blame you one bit. He's anger is escalating. I would also advise my lawyer about the alcohol that she tried to give your son. Your son is a minor and she could very well face the consequences of her actions about that one. I'm sure he wasn't happy when he heard that you knew about it.
He's out of control and the anger is spurring him on. I had a very angry one that I had to deal with. They are not easy to communicate w/and you are going to have to watch your back and be on your toes. They come out of left field w/lies and threats. I'm not telling you this to scare you, but to give you a heads up... you are dealing w/a very irrational person right now.
Please contact your lawyer Friday morning and get this stuff documented. You may even need to get a copy of the cop's report for documentation.
Try to have a good 4th of July, even though the fireworks started yesterday. Maybe today's fireworks will be much better for you and the boys.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
