You do sound really good sub. Am happy for that and even happier that you are putting your well being first :-)
I am in a much better place emotionally... Thanks
However she still gets to me lol, the latest and someone correct me if I was wrong.
My wife was suppose to take care of her life insurance policy, by either changing the debit card to her new bank account or cancelling the policy. According the the insurance agent I can not change the policy as it is in her name. I left some money in our account for two months and saw no more activity on any auto drafts, so I closed the account. Sure enough two weeks later her insurance policy tried to debit the account and cost $72.00 in insufficient funds. I texting her the info on the refi date I let her know what happened.
text conversation:
Me: I'm trying to set up the refi, it looks like next week is going to be the closing. What days work best for you? Also you did not call (agent) about the life insurance and they tried to debit my account and I got hit with 72 in fees. So if you want the insurance policy you will need to call them.
W: later in the afternoon is best, any day is fine... and I have talked to (agent)
Me: Okay, he said you did not call him back to take care of the policy and I was charged 72 in fees. I'm not sure what happened. I'll setup a date and time for refi and will let you know.
W: ok thanks
Me: I don't feel like I should be responsible for the 72 in fees, what do you think.
W: I will send you the money... by the way I payed for D's basketball and doctor bill and didn't say a thing to you... I have no problem paying my part... I'm sorry if you think I trying to get over on you.
i did not respond to the last text, later I texted her the date/time and location of closing. I saw no reason to continue down this path, she knows I would like for her to pay me back the 72 now it's up to her if she will.
There is a huge difference in paying for a bill that she caused and co-paying bills for our D. By the way, I looked and she has not payed any doctor bills, I have payed $2500 for the deductible and basketball camp was $50.00.
Basic problem in our marriage was we always seemed to go down this path, i would try to state my desire and she would bring up stuff that had nothing to do with the issue at hand. I felt like she was diverting and trying to sidestep her part. Before I would have tried explaining my position and she would have kept muddying up the water (at least my perspective anyway).
Am I missing something here?? $72.00 is not much money and i understand I could or possibly should have not said anything but... I feel taken advantage of throughout this whole ordeal and I do not want to pay for something that was not my responsibility and I could not take care of.
Was I a jerk?!?!
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
