Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part IV)

[hopefulinga]

Sorry to hear about your wife, AS. I will echo to keep your expectations of what this will do to your M at a minimum. I think being there and being supportive and loving unconditionally is the best that you can do for her right now.

I've lived through 4 surgical procedures between December and March with my H, including heart surgery. I also had to take him to the ER in the middle of the night. I saw the fear of death in his eyes. I stayed by his side at the hospitals locally and visited when he was out of town. After all of that, I felt like we were getting closer.

Then in April, he found a reason to get mad again and made a remark that indicated that he had started to soften through those 4 months. So, I'm back to square one.

I had a lot of people tell me that H would re-think life, and maybe he did, I don't know.

I've had to remind myself to love unconditionally so that I don't feel used through all of this.