BNBR, our H's are so similar, right down to their robotic responses. They are totally void of emotion. They have a very skewed view of fairness and didn't count on the legal hassles that they are dealing with. I know my H thought our D would be smooth. He wanted to use a fly-by-night mediation service (the cheapest place he could find) and just assumed I would go along with his mapped out plans for support, division of assets/debts, etc. When that didn't happen the tantrums started. You're headed into a very difficult part of the L process. It may be what your H needs to wake up to reality. I don't have any advice other than make sure that your attorney has the ability to recognize a good settlement so it can get done. My first attorney wanted more for me than I wanted for myself or that the court would likely award me. Sadly for me there were a lot of missed opportunities. I just went along with it all, not knowing my better.
Continue detaching. Try not to see the legal part as personal and remember that any spew you receive likely has fear as the primary emotion. Your H's fantasy is going to come at quite a cost. As hard as it is you will rebuild your life. There are many examples on this board of others who were in a similar position, but made it through and are living full-filling lives now. Please take very good care of yourself This is so hard on the soul.
