Crimson,

Heads up.. a little 2x4

I know that you are hurt and you have every right to be.. but this whole thread has been about you hurting...

.. come on darling. Don't you think it's time to quit running on your hamster wheel and start running in the world?

I know you are trying - but your posts are still heavily about your pain.

Why don't you start journaling only about the GALing and how it makes your feel?

Create some goals.. journal about them... get excited about them!!

I know your goals included your wife.. but she's just not there.. and you have to let it go. YOU HAVE TO.

Life is all about perspective and it's time that you put on your positivity goggles. It will help you feel better. It will help you move forward.

AND We want to help you move forward. If you need support with how to limit contact.. we can do that.

If you need us to help you understand why the ignoring of texts or establishing of boundaries are healthy and loving to both of you... we can do that.

And of course - if you still need to just journal about your pain and need a listening ear... we can do that too.

But know that as long as you continue to journal about your woes.. you will be stuck in them.

So what will take for you to put on the glasses and realize that you have so much to be thankful for?

M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.