Don't worry about what he wrote. He's still blameshifting and presenting that "oh woe is me" attitude.
Here's the breakdown:
"Given our history, we have always been way up and way down."
"OUR"? "WE"? He still places blame on you.
"Coming back with what I've done and what I personally deal with is not an option"
Because he doesn't have the b@ll$ to confront his wrongs and takes the easy way out.
"So filing for divorce seems like an obvious step,"
To him because he obviously knows how to cope with things in a healthy manner.
"but I'm more concerned about being a father than going through a divorce on my priority list."
Translation: I'm a great dad so I can get partial custody and downplay my affairs.
"JPL you're amazing but I don't deserve you. You deserve someone who is honest and faithful and forthright with their feelings."
Falling on his sword. He is soooo gracious to "give" you away.
"I've lost my opportunity to give you that and I realize that you deserve something much better than me. I want the best for you...and I realize it's not me."
"I want" - see?
"I've just done so much wrong. I'm so sorry and guilty."
Insincere.
"I've been hurt and I dealt with it in the worst way which was being unfaithful."
See? He's blaming you first - "I've been hurt".
"Especially after we separated. OW is the most faithful I've been in 5 months."
What part of this sentence even makes the most remote bit of sense? So he's faithful to the OW? How delusional. So he can't be faithful to HIS WIFE and HIS KIDS? but wants to be a good dad?
Your response was great. Continue to tell him that he can't tell you how you're supposed to feel. Start ignoring every other call he sends in. And when he does call, make sure you're out doing something. Present him with something the OW can't ... his family and YOU.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
