As for "working with" a love avoidant - they have to want to work on it themselves, I think. I've dated several (before I read the book and realized that it kept happening because I myself was skittish about getting back into a real relationship after my divorce).
But the more typical pattern is that someone who is a love addict gets stuck on the love avoidant - so you have to take a look at that in yourself.
2 of the 3 guys I dated are pretty hopeless - I doubt they'll ever overcome their issues. The third one found love with his old childhood love; but I know he still keeps her at arms length too.
