without reading the book, in short - any advice on working with a love avoidant?

I don't know if that is necessarily what he is - he loves me, we live together, he talks about forever and everything just not the actual marriage aspect.

In his mind, currently, being married is no different than living together except that it is more expensive to walk away.


Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.