own a buz - pt 12 ... taking him off the pedestal

[makingmagic]

Bullying ~ let me explain further. It is h's comment/desire to downsize the business to a more manageable inventory. Yet, each time he hears of more product for sale, he is convinced HE NEEDS them. He likes to be able to turn over a quick buck. Feels they are easy for sales. Now, this may be true...BUT, if we weren`t overwhelmed with stock already & had a place to put more, Ì`d be more on board with his thought process. Sometimes, his reasoning makes sense as we need to protect our investment and not allow competitors to buy the same product. We have a niche market. I understand that! But, to buy random product for the sake of his thrill??? What happened to the "plan"? HIS PLAN??

When this happens (almost daily or every few days), I feel his pressure and hear his persistance. Or, he will also say things like "do what you want then", with a snarky tone... these have been tactics to force me to bid/buy as he knows I JUMP to his demands. I was also doing so fearing that If I didn't he would be mad at me. And, he has been mad in the past. I have also been caving fearing what would happen to our relationship. He knows this and takes advantage. Yesterday, his persistance escalated ~ saying that he should be on his own so he didn't have to share profit. This is a new level for us. He has never said this before. He could never run this business without me (not at this level), just as I cannot without him... It is tooo large and we have a unique system that works. Because of each others qualities.

Again... I understand protecting our investment, therefore we "need" certain inventory... but not randoms. Not when our inventory is out of control!

There are 4 more to consider today.... grrrr! Here we go again.

Is it not considered bullying when ones persistance force is used to intimidate another?... yep, just wiki'd it... Thats whats happening!

I am intimidated by him! How do I approach him with this? If I use the label "emotional bully" he will freak! But, he needs to see that we are not following HIS PLAN to downsize. He totally disregards this convo while we are in the process of discussing the next purchase.

Lawyer ~~ yes, I do feel the need to seek councel. I fear this and am avoiding it, as mentioned I am still involved with another battle from my D's bio dad. I am not looking forward to anymore legal stuff. I have been battling that one for 20 years! I hate it! I hate my lawyer. I don't trust them! She took advantage of me and profitted unnecessarily on my dime. I wanted to go to a lawyer with facts and an agreement in place just requiring to sign the dotted line. I am exhausted of this process. I will do it, however.

kml ~ over the years we have not taken much salary. We have divided the salary, but kept most of it in the business. Thus allowing us to have a massive inventory. ATM, the profits are shown in the bank account (highest its ever been), as well as sitting in inventory. Since I do the books, I can look at P&L statements, but don't know what I am reading. I never claimed to be a book keeper. I just do data entry as needed and trust our accountant.

I hope some of this clarifies better. I am not debating anyone, just trying to give more information to my sitch.

Thanks all!