One month down, zero casualties

[RosaLinda]

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"If we took OW out of the equation, I think there would just be another OW or also with my H, single guy friends who are immature for them to text. I think there is a need for constant contact from somewhere, something that makes them feel needed and important."

sort of sad that the love, admiration and devotion of the person who loves him most in the world isn't enough to make him feel needed and important. My H has had 8 or 10 female Russian pen pals over the past 3 1/2 years, all of whom adored the very ground he walked on. Not actual EAs I don't think, but flirtations, infatuations, exciting constantly new relationships supplying LOTS of admiration and attention. These relationships were not as prolonged or involved as your H's relationships with his 5 OW, and no physical contact, as they were all 3,000 miles away. 

"It's hard because he is reaching out, but his is not dropping any of the other ropes. I don't like the feeling that I'm just one of several ropes he is holding."

Do you think the same old wife will ever be enough for them once they're properly baked? Or will they wear permanent grooves and blisters into their hands from refusing to drop that rope? 

Gotta just keep trusting the process!