Not confused...moving towards acceptance

[wishing, hoping]

S10 said OW offered my S14 alcohol several times when they were out to dinner a couple of months ago. I lost it...I cried and screamed when I got in the car. I even found out that H, went along with the coersion of my S14 taking a drink and OW also gave some to her D5. What a b1tch! And what an a$$ of my H, to even think that was okay. I asked them if it happened more times than one and if my S14 actually took the drink and if they had offered S10 too. All these were answered NO. I ended the conversation with telling both my boys that i was proud of S14 for making the decisions he did and not giving into the pressure. I told them that I didn't agree with OW's wreckless decision and that is why I didn't like her. I also told them that I didn't agree with their father's decision either. Both of my boys told me that they wish there OLD dad would return and that they did not like their NEW dad. I told them all that we could do was pray that their old dad did return one day. They asked me what I thought was wrong with him, and I told them that I didn't know, but that H wasn't making good decisions and I was only concerned about when those decisions affected them. I got the whole "well we really don't like being around Dad anymore, can we just not go over there?". I told them they need to discuss their feelings with their Dad and express everything they express to me to him. I am not sure that my kids are at the breaking point yet that they have the courage to do so.

I am so sad and mad for them. I want to protect my children, and because of the f'd up legal system I can't do anything about any of what is going on. I am trying to build up the strength in my kids. It seems they are going to have to see some ugly things.

Hey BRNR

I don't see why you cannot discuss this in court. This is illegal. That is against the law and your H and OW can get in serious trouble for giving alcohol to minors, whether it is their own child or not. It's called child endangerment and if H or OW in my sitch ever did that to my kids I would be on them like white on rice. I would at least tell your H that was unacceptable and if that happens again there will be consequences.

I am in your corner. Document that incident as well as all the times your H refuses to take the kids. You may need that info later on down the road.

(((BRNR)))

WH