okay so keep the ring and stop calling it an engagement ring, call it a beautiful diamond ring PERIOD.

why do you need a deadline?

TMW you are a very smart young woman and I think you know deep down inside if this BF is the right man for you. Only you can answer that...

If he is the right man then stop putting pressure on him (and you) and enjoy and build on what you have.

If he's not the right man, stop trying to make him into something he is not and is never going to be. Face your fear and do what is right for you.

you are right, you don't know on day 1 what day 415 will be like... but once you do know don't let it take another 400 days to try and make it change.

Figure out who you are and what you want out of this life and then make it happen.

Me 54
DS19 and DS17
Married 06/1989
Divorced 01/2011