I am sorry that he's being the way he is. I'm not making excuses for him by any means, but right now, he's not mentally healthy and the only thing he wants to do is be free of responsibility. He wants to be able to party and have fun on holidays and most likely be w/his new best buds. Then again, there are some who do absolutely nothing on holidays and just pull the covers up over their heads and hide because the holidays spell family.

You can call him out on this, but it most likely will not make a difference to him. He will tune you out. All it will do is frustrate you even more. Some day, he will reconnect w/his children, but it won't be any time soon.

You are a wonderful mother who is always looking out for her children and that's why it's important to be there for them all of the time. You are the only adult in the picture for now.

Again, I am so sorry he's acting this way.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.