Magic, KML and I have been advising you to seek legal advice about the business for a very long time. Just because you seek advice, doesn't mean you SHARE it w/your SO. It's to help you negotiate in a more business like manner and know exactly what you are up against if he offers up something that isn't fair or equal. It's not a scare tactic to use against him, but to give you knowledge about what your rights are.
As for the comment, no it's not bullying. He is stating his opinion, just as you are stating yours. I think, from reading your postings, that your attitude triggers some of the negative feedback you get from him. Your pit bull attitude hasn't changed and neither has your thinking. You continue to stay you are working on these things, but I continue to see them in your conversations. Again, my perception from your postings.
Now, about the pocket dialing...don't play games. Be real and honest. Let's face it, you wanted him to think you were out and about, as well as having a great time. However, on the other hand, had it done this to you, you would have been madder than an old wet hen. Keep in mind, you were out having a great time and yet, you were obsessed w/him possibly having a cup of coffee w/a woman. Learn to choose your battles and don't play games...he'll know if you are real or not.
It's your call as to whether you seek the advice of a lawyer, but we all know how businesses and relationships can go down in flames whereby the money is gone in a heartbeat and we have to start over. He can promise you the moon today and if things continue to sour between you, he can change his mind...oral agreements can be broken w/a snap of a finger. Documents w/signatures on the dotted line are far better because you have written proof and they will stand up in court.
May I ask you a question? Why are you here if you aren't going to take some of the advice and use it to your advantage? You've been given excellent advice, advice that a counselor would give you and yet, you are determined to do things your way, which by the way isn't getting you anywhere fast. You are the hamster on the wheel, constantly running in circles and getting no where fast. Step off that wheel and learn to trust the posters...we've learned the hard way and have been at it for quite some time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
