Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part IV)

[InnerStrength]

That's quite a double-whammy AS! And it seems like you are taking it with your usual grace. It has been said before, but you're quite the inspiration. I think I can handle, to some extent or another, just about anything thrown at me at this point; even though my ambivalence faded and I know now I'd like W back, I don't mind if it never happens -- but any comment that indicated OM was better for my kids in any way, or even played some sort of father figure role, well... that story would probably end with me in prison a few hours later.

Very sorry to hear about your W's cancer. I hope that it can be treated effectively, but since this terrible thing is already there, I hope that some good comes out of it -- like drawing you two closer together.