Lost, confused and trying to make a stand

[kat727]

I did get a apology but what I really wanted to hear that our marriage had meant something. Probably not something I will ever hear.

When I read the discussion on" work" I took it to mean working on yourself to be a better you. This wasn't just for your marriage but for you too. Being betrayed, humiliated and hurt does such a number on you, focusing on doing things for the other person may come across as clingy.

Right now focus on you. Focus on your kids. Do things that will help you get to a better place. Your kids are going to be hurting and they will need a stable parent as well.

I forgave my ex a few years back because carrying all of that anger around was just exhausting. It also was hurting my kids. So I forgave him but I certainly didn't condone what he did. We get along but are not friends. As I say that, he is here now after getting done helping me with the backyard(the offer came totally out of the blue). He got pizza for us and now we are all watching a movie. He did marry his affair partner.

Don't ask me to explain how he is now. I suppose I will just be happy for the free labor and the fact that we can sit in the same room watching movies with our kids.

kat