Very true Mr. Bond...She may only be interested in a friendship. I can see that at this point that her trust and interest are seeking validation and assessing future risk and benefit options.
However, Friendships are a base layer on which to build other things.....and I'm not being overly hopeful, but that romantic chemistry, that energy that was in our marriage, is still there, it’s never been the issue.
I have admitted my faults, failure, and short comings to her in great depth and detail, to which she has stated that she even has learned a lot from my perspectives in what I have been able to relay to her about our relationship dynamics and the "divorce trap" so many couples fall into. Plus, I have addressed them to the enth degree...and I continue to learn and improve on all levels.
That brings the question of whether or not my ex has done any work on her own issues....which I highly doubt at this point.
I will continue to be patient...but I have already tipped my hand twice, and she knows exactly where I stand, and what I eventually want out of our relationship.
I can/will always have hope!


M 52
W 40
D 15 (step)
S 12 (step)
Married 7, together almost 8
Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..."
BD final 8/22/12