DO NOT talk with H at all before consulting with L FIRST, FIRST, FIRST, FIRST!!!!
I agree! See the lawyer FIRST. How will you even know if what H is proposing is fair, if you haven't seen a lawyer to find out what is fair?
If you know what a fair deal would look like, you can steer H away from unfair or ridiculous suggestions by simply letting him know that you know your rights. But first you have to FIND OUT YOUR RIGHTS.
(Conversely, if H proposes an offer that is way more than what the attorney tells you is likely, you'll know you want to agree promptly and get him to sign on the dotted line sooner rather than later.)
Please, just see an attorney FIRST before you get into financial talks with H. See a divorce attorney, preferably one with some business experience too.
