Hi Portia. I want you to know there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You've been giving him all the space in the world and finally felt it was time to reach out with a pleasant text that had nothing to do with the relationship... there's nothing at all wrong with that. You're doing the best you can for your relationship right now, and I'm proud of you for that.

I also agree with BF. You really don't know what he's thinking. He may have been happy to see your text, but felt too guilty to text back because of his actions. Maybe he's just not ready.

If my W moved out I'd do the same as you. Give her periods of NC and then reach out lightly. The day I stop reaching out is the day I'm done. Are you done?

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl