As for the financial discussion. I will not agree to anything with h, but want to hear what he suggests first. Then write it all down, consider it. Then go to a lawyer with it. I still need to get my name on the business first, before we can divide it.
Magic, you've got this backwards. You NEED to go to the L FIRST before even having any financial convos with H. Trust me, this is for your own good. The L will be able to advise you of what options are available for you in regard to the business. Get a L who specializes in businesses...ins't yours a LLC? If yes, then get the L who specializes in LLC matters.
He is insistant that we purchase another unit today as he wants to make $$. I reminded him that our goal was to downsize and that we did not "need" this one.
I ended up stating that I placed the bid for him, at a lower rate than he was campaining me for. I didn't want to bid in the first place.
Perhaps have H spell out to you from his POV why he wants to make certain purchases. Just hear him out. If you feel that his reasons are not good for the business, then you better have solid data to back it up! Data cannot be argued with if you have the facts and figures at hand.
Magic, I am going to recommend a book that is a MUST read for women in business [or any workplace] (this applies to female lurkers as well! Yes, I mean you, and YOU too... ).
How To Say It for Women. Communicating with Confidence and Power Using the Language of Success by Phyllis Mindell ISBN 0-7352-0222-2 (paperback version)
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