In the beginning (during BD) W mentioned that her preference was to stay in our house but she couldn't afford it on her own. She then mentioned she wanted to move to the same city as me so that we could share joint custody of our kids.
She has been all over the place with her comments, one day mentioning she is going to start dating but not right away, the next day she will never get married again. And even better yet, she mentioned that she wanted to be in the same city as me because she wouldn't ever be able to get someone else to move into OUR house with her ever again. (apprx. 35 min. commute each way every day)
Getting this house done seems to be to my benefit as well, although i am burned out working on it now for 8 years off and on. If i get it done and on the market, it means more time with my kids.
I am almost starting to wonder if she has already found OM or he is waiting in the wings and she is using me for her backup plan. Nothing would surprise me anymore i guess.
I made sure that the L put in the D paperwork that if the house wasnt sold after 1 year, she would have to refinance it into her name so i could get a place of my own. That part was to protect me from living in my sisters basement for any extened amount of time, although i hope it doesn't come to that.
At times i want to tell her to look me in the eyes and tell me honestly that she has not found or wasn't having a EA or PA, but i don't know what purpose that would serve me anymore anyway.
Too many thoughts to process at once for right now.
Thanks for stopping by.
Me: 41 W: 36 M:9 yrs Together: 12 yrs Kids S7 S4 BD: 01/13 W filed 5/13 D final 8/13
