Lost, confused and trying to make a stand

[JustStunned]

I disagree. In my experience forgiveness is a one way street. The peace of forgiveness is something we give ourselves when we let go of the anger and expectations we held for others. Do we love ourselves enough to forgive others? Can we let go and cease to count coup? Can we find peace?

I find to have inner peace I must forgive. I choose this path. I am capable of others. All manner of mayhem and chaos capable of am I. Choose them I do not.

We are not God. I believe we are spiritual beings and wholly capable of unconditional love. For me this is another matter of choice. I have experienced conditional love and for a while I walked that path. It rears its head less these days because I choose so.

If it stings there is probably an element of truth contained and this can point to a starting point, a place to begin again the journey of improvement. To be successful improvement must be continuous as each leg of the journey builds upon the preceding ones. Pick a spot on the path, work on you.

I understand one of your goals is to have good relationships with your children. What can you do to improve yourself and the likelihood you will achieve that goal?

I apologize as this may hurt. The relationship you and she had is done. Trying to resurrect it wastes you. Find the new normal and work building other relationships. Relationships that enrich you.