I am better not completely there yet if I'll ever be completely there. I will hopefully continue to look for ways to improve me and not look at the world to be at fault.
Originally Posted By: StubbornDyke
That's great to hear, Subguy.
Thanks, I hope you are doing well.
I am about to close on the refinance of my house and I have to admit I'm a little bitter about having to give my X so much for the equity... Well, if she worked 40 hours or even 5 days a week I'd feel like she was trying to have a decent living standard instead of keeping her wages low so she can get more money on child support. It's not like we have young children and there is no physical limitations on her working a full time job. So with the perceived on my part, grab for money it gets me a little worked up, but I cannot control what she does or claims as income (her business has a lot of cash transactions that she does not claim). This is an action she will have to live with.
I need to just do the next right thing and after that do the next right thing and not worry about her and what I cannot prove or control.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
