HWA, Just dropping a line to say I'm sorry things are not looking up at the moment in your sitch & that you are struggling so hard at 8 months in. I have no useful advice, unfortunately.
Our timelines & length of marriage are similar. I too am suddenly struggling, again, at 8-ish months in. Not that I really ever had peace, but I've had a harder time of late (possibly because of a family member being seriously ill).
Anyway, looks like you are getting a lot of great super advice from experienced folks (I'm trying to absorb/apply to my sitch what they are advising you), so I just wanted to say hang in there!! You have more supporters than you know! I sincerely hope things work out, and you are happy again "soon".
H48 M46 T26 M25 S25 D21 10/4/12 BD - ILYBINILWY, S 10/7/12 H Leaves, works 2 hours away H Done 1/13 H tells S he wants D 2/13 NO R talk since - nothing filed We live together weekends