NERO here- don't let me float away anybody

[RosaLinda]

Hi Nero! So glad I found your new thread!

Wow you have some great reasons for hating the 4th of July, but I"m glad you are resolved to look at it as YOUR INDEPENDENCE DAY! All those fireworks going off to celebrate your independence in your newly cleaned house, with all your H's stuff hidden away in drawers!

I looked at Party Rock on youtube, and a lesson for the dance steps for people who were going to be part of the flash mob. You're right, it is such fun, instant PMA! We're not too old to rock with the best of them Nero! And hopefully in 20 years, we'll be like your old aunt, trucking along with our friends and our families and social life, dancing around to Party Rock! You're right, it seems like an insult to the memory of your sister and best friend to was our lives. Our lives will be what we make of them, with our without our Hs, so let's make sure that we have the best lives ever.

I'm glad you have your trip to FL to visit the kids in August, somehting to look forward to! My brother lives near Ft. Lauderdale in Davie, they have the best beaches down there! Will you stay with your H while you're down there?

I'm glad for you that your heart doesn't flip over your H anymore Nero, it's so hard to love someone so much like that when you know that he doesn't love you anymore. My H keeps telling me that the only reason I love him is because I'm losing him. He's such a jacka$$ sometimes. I am trying to detach, not too successfully huh?

Hey Dawn, you sound great! So glad to read "I'm trying to look at this from my perspective, no longer what he would think or how he would interpret what I do, free!" You sound happy and free. It does my heart good to hear you happy!

It's great that you have such insight into your H's horrid childhood Nero, as that's probably why he cracked into this MLC craziness right? How horrible for him to have his mom disappear with his baby brother one night. Maybe you're right, he just CAN'T care about anyone else at this time. My H actually said that to me. He said that he cares about me and RT equally, but thinks that he has really actually never loved anyone, that he is not sure if he can love anyone. I sure felt like he loved me over the years. He made me FEEL beloved. How can he feel that he never loved anyone? And I know that he tells the RT that he loves her; maybe he's lying to her? Have they just hoodwinked each other?

But maybe someday Nero, our H's will wake up and see that we have been loving them all this time that they were totally unloveable, and they will realize that we are the prizes, and turn back to us. This is the hope that keeps me going Nero.

Thanks for being such a good friend and checking up on me. You keep me going too