I'm really struggling with the thought of telling her how much she means to me. I know I can't, but it's taking everything I've got to hold it back. I'm afraid I'm going to crack and pursue.
Thing is, Mtnman, you could say how much she means to you, and she will just smile and say "I know", like she did about the comedian. And that wouldn't be very satisfying. What you really want is for her to say how much you mean to her, right?
I think you're doing stellar! If she is planning family get-togethers, including you, I would think she is still working things out (needs some space) but is inching toward you.
You are able to keep things light-hearted and laugh a lot with her. It takes some of the pressure off for her so it's easy to be around you. Don't mess that up with some heavy emotional language from you, IMO. It will make her feel guilty about "sowing her oats" and she may not be as comfortable being around you. Just my two cents.
Keep on doing what you're doing. And I agree keeping MIL out. It's tempting to want someone on your side, but it's not good for it to be her. I seem to be the only one here with a MIL that encouraged my H in D and replay. But she is H's main problem, IMO. But I digress.
Glad to hear W spent the night, too. Even if it wasn't in the way you would like.
rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
