Take it to the limit

[reachingHigher]

Yet almost a year and a half later, here he still is. I do ask myself, why?

I ask myself that, too. Why is your H still there?

He is so different in that way than mine was. When my H was ready to move out, he said he thought about leaving 24/7. When my H was ready to D, he said overnight wasn't fast enough to get a D.

The only thing I can figure is that whatever the causes are of the crisis for each person would determine how it gets played out. Thus FY's W stays, and stays connected, but wants to run. Your H stays but strays emotionally in an A. T^2's W stays but has these cyber rendezvous's. My H said he wanted to go, and did go, but never left emotionally.

Such a strange world we are now a part of. I often go back to what T^2 said long ago, that maybe we are meant to be a part of this person's life to help them through these crises. Help them become strong and mature adults, and through helping, we grow ourselves.

Tvs, I'll be thinking of you all day. Let us know how things go for you when H gets back. You're a light and joy to your boys and a delight on this forum. I wish you strength and courage today.

rH