Thanks for the advice Mr. Bond. I can tell you that the thought of OM has crossed my mind and I asked her straight up during the ilybnilwy day. She said absolutely not. I then asked her if she was having an EA and she asked what that was, and then said no. I believe her for the most part but the EA would not surprise me at all I guess. I don't know that I would say anything to her at this point with D being final next week.

Are you seeing things differently? Maybe I am being blind to the possibility of OM but she has always stressed fidelity to me throughout our M.

I guess I try and make sure to validate, yet stick up for myself without arguing but I cross that line too much it seems. It is sometimes hard for me to be the bigger person.

The reason the EA seems like a possibility is because the night of BD she said she sees the changes in me but she is no longer willing to change or try.

Maybe you see something I don't or don't want to regarding OM.


Me: 41 W: 36
M:9 yrs
Together: 12 yrs
Kids S7 S4
BD: 01/13
W filed 5/13
D final 8/13