Divorced from a WAW....gut feelings

[MrBond]

"My thought is....when in all of this does she begin to really examine her own role and actually make some sort of effort to apologize herself?"

Doesn't always happen. In fact, you don't know if she thinks any of it was her fault to begin with. That's why you can't have any expectations of how things are going to go. Just because you may have changed it doesn't mean that your spouse has.